I'm watching Boston Legal again. This show, for all its objectionable points of view, is nonetheless worth watching if only for its ability to drive home points that are close to home.
The episode I saw last night was the one where Denny Crane was telling Alan Shore that for him, Shirley Schmidt (his law firm partner and ex-girlfriend) was still "The One." "All these years and there your are, still believing in The One," Alan remarked. "Love is an ugly business, " Denny replied. "And yet, it's what we live for," said Alan.
The conversation took place at Denny Crane's office balcony where the show's episodes usually end. But it could have very well been me and my law school friend Kat (who, incidentally, has found the person she thinks is The One) conversing in our school dorm, with her as Denny and me as Alan.
You see, after all these years, I've stopped believing in The One. And I say this, not out of bitterness but out of the realization that this whole concept of finding the one or of being the one is so overrated.
Call me unromantic; pessimistic, even. But this is what I believe in: I believe in discernment and in listing down your essentials in a person and in determining which of those traits in your list are non-negotiable. I believe in considering a person, not because of how he makes you feel but how, in the scheme of things, you two can build a good christian family. I believe that love is a decision and that the feelings will follow once you are convinced that your choice is right. I believe that though all of this might sound too devoid of human emotions, it has worked for most people I know. And in an era where court dockets are clogged with annulment cases (I, for one, have decided quite a number) perhaps even more than collection cases, what people need is something that works, instead something that will simply make them feel good momentarily.
So Denny Crane could pine for Shirley all he wants but I'm concurring with Alan Shore. Come to think of it, Ally Mc Beal had the same philosophy as Denny with respect to the love of her life, Billy. Look at how that one turned out.
The episode I saw last night was the one where Denny Crane was telling Alan Shore that for him, Shirley Schmidt (his law firm partner and ex-girlfriend) was still "The One." "All these years and there your are, still believing in The One," Alan remarked. "Love is an ugly business, " Denny replied. "And yet, it's what we live for," said Alan.
The conversation took place at Denny Crane's office balcony where the show's episodes usually end. But it could have very well been me and my law school friend Kat (who, incidentally, has found the person she thinks is The One) conversing in our school dorm, with her as Denny and me as Alan.
You see, after all these years, I've stopped believing in The One. And I say this, not out of bitterness but out of the realization that this whole concept of finding the one or of being the one is so overrated.
Call me unromantic; pessimistic, even. But this is what I believe in: I believe in discernment and in listing down your essentials in a person and in determining which of those traits in your list are non-negotiable. I believe in considering a person, not because of how he makes you feel but how, in the scheme of things, you two can build a good christian family. I believe that love is a decision and that the feelings will follow once you are convinced that your choice is right. I believe that though all of this might sound too devoid of human emotions, it has worked for most people I know. And in an era where court dockets are clogged with annulment cases (I, for one, have decided quite a number) perhaps even more than collection cases, what people need is something that works, instead something that will simply make them feel good momentarily.
So Denny Crane could pine for Shirley all he wants but I'm concurring with Alan Shore. Come to think of it, Ally Mc Beal had the same philosophy as Denny with respect to the love of her life, Billy. Look at how that one turned out.
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